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【首发译文】幸福:你是应该有目标还是有决议?  

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幸福:你是应该有目标还是有决议?
Leverer 译     From: LinkedIn Pulse     By: Gretchen Rubin     December 27,2013
【首发译文】幸福:你是应该有目标还是有决议? - 杠杆使者Leverer - 杠杆力
 

对于我的幸福计划,我通常计划我的“决议”——我“停止唠叨”或“在草上唱歌”或者“为我的计划腾出时间”的决议。

我悠闲地意识到了有很多人说的不是“目标”。我从未在这个区别上多想过什么,但是昨天我很吃惊,这个区别实际上是非常大的。

你击中目标,你实现目标,你维持决议

我的有些目的可以更好的描述成决议(resolution),另一些则是目标(goal)。

“跑马拉松”或者“说一口流利的西班牙语”都是一个好的目标(goal。它很明确。它很容易地阐述了什么时候算是实现。一旦你完成了,那么你就完成了!

“吃更多的蔬菜”或者“停止八卦”或者“早上第一件事儿锻炼一下”更像是一项决议(resolution。你不会哪一天一起床然后发现你实现了。这是某种你不得不决心去做的事儿,每一天,永远。你永远也做不完的事儿。

拥有目标对幸福来说是极好的。第一真理是:去想想幸福,我们需要在一种成长的氛围中想一想感觉好的,感觉坏的和感觉正确的。向目标奋进会提供巨大的成长。

当你去奔向目标时是很容易感觉到气馁的。假如它需要比你预期花更长的时间怎么办?假如比你预期的困难怎么办?一旦你实现了目标,又会有什么发生呢?说你跑过了马拉松。那么现在呢----停止练习了吗?设立了新的目标了吗?

我在我即将完成的关于习惯形成的书中前前后后写了很多 “终点线”的挑战。或许反直觉地,原来实现目标是习惯形成中的一个危险时刻。

伴随着决议,期望值是有所不同的。每一天,我都试着不辜负我的决议。有时候我成功了,有时候我失败了,但是每一天都是一个新的开始,一个新的机会。我从不期终结我的决议,所以当它们面对挑战时我不会感到气馁。而它们才会。

 

英文原文:

For my happiness project, I always talk in terms of my “resolutions” – my resolution to “Quit nagging” or “Sing in the morning” or “Make time for projects.”

I’d noticed idly that a lot of people talk instead in terms of “goals.” I’d never thought much about this distinction, but yesterday, it struck me that this difference was, in fact, significant.

You hit a goal, you achieve a goal. You keep a resolution.

I think that some objectives are better characterized as resolutions, others, as goals.

 Run in a marathon” or “Become fluent in Spanish” is a good goal. It’s specific. It’s easy to tell when it has been achieved. Once you’ve done it, you’ve done it!

 Eat more vegetables” or “Stop gossiping” or “Exercise first thing in the morning” is better cast as a resolution. You won’t wake up one morning and find that you’ve achieved it. It’s something that you have to resolve to do, every day, forever. You’ll never be done with it.

Having goals is terrific for happiness. The First Splendid Truth says that to think about happiness, we need to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth. Striving toward a goal gives a tremendous sense of growth.

But it can be easy to get discouraged when you’re trying to hit a goal. What if it takes longer than you expected? What if it’s harder than you expected? And what happens once you’ve reached your goal? Say you’ve run the marathon. What now – do you stop exercising? Do you set a new goal?

I write a lot about the challenge of "finish lines" in my forthcoming book about habit-formation, Before and After. Counter-intuitively, perhaps, it turns out that meeting a goal is a dangerous moment in habit-formation.

With resolutions, the expectations are different. Each day, I try to live up to my resolutions. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes I fail, but every day is a clean slate and a fresh opportunity. I never expect to be done with my resolutions, so I don’t get discouraged when they stay challenging. Which they do.


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